Tuesday, November 2, 2010

My mother-in-laws birthday and my first dinner party

It definitely was not planned, but I had my first family dinner party on Saturday night for my mother-in-laws birthday. Junayd and I were originally planning to buy fresh prawns and stay in with Yasmine and cook something fun. I have never cooked and cleaned fresh prawns before so this sounded like a challenge.

Our plans went out the window on Friday when my FIL reminded me that it was Junayd's mom's birthday the next day and that we should go over there for supper. Wow such a nice guy, inviting all us to his place, so his wife, whose birthday it is, can cook us dinner. LOL.
Junayd and I decided it would be better and easier to come to our place and we (I) will cook dinner. We also decided to invite close family friends of Junayd's who have 3 children ages 10, 8 and 4 (2 boys and a girl).

So Junayd bought 3 pounds of Prawns, and 2 pounds of beef and I set to cooking one Indian dish, and one Thai dish. I was so nervous, here I was cooking for 3 matriarchs (my MIL, our friend and her MIL) who have grown up cooking Indian food and I only just started. It was a pretty big feat.

Cleaning the prawns took the longest... I had never de-veined a prawn before, so it was interesting. Luckily Junayd did help me and after about 40 minutes we managed to clean all of them.
I made a beef dish that is cooked with this green leafy vegetable, and I never ever remember the name of it. It's like spinach, but not. We don't have it in Canada, but it is so tasty. Then I made spicy prawns in coconut milk.
I had told my guests to arrive at 630pm, knowing full well that they wouldn't arrive until about 730-8pm. The time thing here drives me crazy. My MIL and FIL arrived first and she was dressed so beautifully in a saree that I had bought her for Christmas. She just looked so happy to be honoured for her birthday and to be with her family.

The food turned out amazing! With the food I served fresh roti's and basmati rice to go with the prawns, and of course we had a small chocolate cake that was bought for my MIL. I got praised over and over again for the food, and not a drop of the Thai dish was left. Most Indians don't eat a lot of variety (international cuisines) so it was nice to introduce them to a new dish, although the spices were not too far off from Indian ones.

The best compliment of all was when my mother-in-law asked me for the recipe. Success!!

It was a really nice night and it was great to be with my other family. I think before I had really come to terms with living in India, I I never enjoyed being with my in-laws because I missed my own family so much, and felt almost guilty for enjoying being with them. However, it does not have to be one way or the other. I have my family and always will, but now I have an extended family and it's great to be able to have a support group here who loves me and Yasmine. I think I truly am lucky to have not only an Indian family but a Muslim one as well, who has accepted me and my beliefs and my culture so well. Sure there have been a few hiccups, and bumps and bruises on the way to this kind of relationship that we have now, but now it is comfortable and easy, and I am truly grateful for all the love I have in my life.

6 comments:

Gori Girl said...

Sounds like a good time!

Do you have the recipe for the spicy prawns? I love Thai seafood dishes, and am always on the lookout for new varieties.

Adventurous Ammena said...

masha'Allah (I dont know if you are muslim but you should at least have heard this phrase -ask hubby if not) whereabouts in Canada are you from?? well done with the food ;) I worry about cooking for my in-laws.. cooking for hubby is bad enough when he has to add 'spice' to everything ;)

Shelley said...

Gori Girl- I subscribed to your email page so I can send you a few recipes, including this one. Love your website, will add it to my daily reading.

Ammena: Of course I know the term Masha'Allah, I am not Muslim, but my husband is. I am learning about Islam and I ask a lot of questions to learn more, but it's only to be more familiar. Knowledge is key!
I am from Ottawa...What about you?
Yes, I brought my mother pumpkin risotto the other night and she added hot sauce to it. That was not meant to be spiced up :)

PRDP said...

Sarwari made that beef and green leaf veggie dish for us once - William and I loved it, but Greg was not a fan. So glad the dinner turned out lovely!

Gori Girl said...

Thanks for posting your recipe! :-) I look forward to reading more about you & your family's adventures.

Maria M said...

I am glad it was such a success. I know you will find a way to make things work and be happy no matter what! You have never backed down that easily! Love the blogs!